Coping After An Unexpected Tragedy In Your Personal Life
If there’s anything 2020 has shown us, it’s the need to develop resilience and strength even in the worst of circumstances. Yet that idea isn’t supposed to dismiss the suffering or difficult you or others may have been through, instead it’s supposed to help you understand just how amazing you have likely been.
That being said, when tragedy strikes in its plethora of forms, it can be hard to know what to do. Life is difficult at the best of times, and even then, we don’t always feel up to dealing with another great challenge. So, how can you cope and even work through this problem, letting it strengthen you, and refusing to add to the undue upset?
That’s a hard task, and a hard ask. It’s asking for everything, in fact. But it’s more than possible to achieve, and if you find yourself in a similar situation, we would love to outline a few principles that may help guide you on this path. If you can keep these thoughts in mind, you’ll be more likely to come to a worthwhile result, however that can be defined:
Attend To The Resolution
It’s important to focus on what needs to be done right now, especially if you get a moment to breathe. When losing a family member it can shake your world apart, but the funeral needs to be planned. Focusing on the resolution can help guide your action and provide you with something to work on, which can help you process your emotions more easily and prevents you from making rash decisions. For instance, working with professional loss adjusters after experiencing home damage from a hurricane can help you focus on immediate positive results, rather than lamenting the difficulties you have experienced. There will be time for that later.
Find Support In Those Around You
You’re never weaker for needing the support of those around you. In fact, you’re quite the opposite. It’s much wiser to do this than the shoulder the burden and go it alone, or to try and be strong for everyone else while you do your utmost to hide your own pain. People are social, and we need each other, especially in the hard times. Admitting that is the first step.
Don’t Blame Yourself Or Degenerate
It’s extremely easy to blame yourself for things you have no control over. This is especially true if someone willfully harms themselves, or a situation gets out of your control. Don’t blame yourself. Many of us do not hold 100% control over our own lives, and so we cannot be responsible in full for everyone else. This mindset can help you empathize, while sparing yourself the means of chastising your decisions at every moment. It can be hard to do this, but really try to focus on it. That will contribute to your mental wellness perhaps more than anything else at this stage.
With this advice, we hope you can more easily cope, even after an unexpected tragedy in your personal life.