Dealing With A Divorce: How To Ensure You Remain Good Parents
Sometimes, things just don’t work out. This is why the divorce rate amongst modern couples is so high, and there’s nothing to be ashamed of if you and your partner go your separate ways. However, there is something both of you will still need to put 100% attention on together; parenting!
You still have a child together, and although you no longer live together, you still have to ensure your child is well looked after. So, here’s how you remain good parents following a divorce:
Open up a channel of communication
It’s important to stay in touch with one another for the sake of your child. This way, you can communicate things about your child and organize for them to see the absent parent. Understandably, not all divorces end amicably. As such, you might have no desire to speak to your former partner ever again! In situations like this, you should try and find some channel of communication, maybe through a third-party. What you don’t want to do is make your child the third-party messenger. It’s not good for them to constantly be the go-between and to deliver awkward messages. In fact, many children suffer from anxiety because they’re worried about passing a message from one parent to the other. So, try and find a different way of staying in touch.
Ensure your child has financial support
One of the biggest changes following divorce is your financial situation. Instead of two people earning money for your family, there’s only one. As such, if you have custody of your child, you will be worried they don’t have the necessary financial support. Therefore, you have to make sure their other parent provides it. They could do this willingly, which is ideal as it saves a lot of stress. If they don’t cooperate, you’ll have to find an experienced child support attorney to handle things legally. This will ensure you get paid a sum of money every month to help you support your child’s ongoing needs.
Give your child love and attention
This applies to both parents after a divorce; show your child as much love and attention as possible. It’s so common for kids to feel like they were responsible for your divorce. Especially if they’re old enough to understand what’s going on, they might think you resent them. These feelings will only grow stronger if you don’t have time for them. So, be sure you spend a lot of time with your child and let them know you love them very much. While both parents should do this, it’s perhaps more important for the absent one. They won’t see that parent as much, so the bond can weaken. It’s easy to assume the absent parent doesn’t like you if they’re not eager to see you and don’t want to spend time with you. Don’t let your child feel this way!
Clearly, there are some nuances that make some divorces different from others. Still, as a general rule, these tips apply to all parents that have separated. Just because you’re no longer together doesn’t mean you both don’t have a responsibility to look after your child.