How To Raise Confident Children
As your children get older, you can help them to get by in life by helping them to develop confidence. Confident children may have an easier time at school, with making friends, and growing up into confident and successful adults. Here’s you can help your children to develop confidence.
Demonstrate Confidence Yourself
One of the best ways to help children feel confident is to show confidence in yourself. By doing this, your children can see how confidence can benefit them, and how to feel confident.
Don’t talk down about yourself around your children, as they will pick up on this and could mimic the behavior. This can mean anything from not calling yourself ‘stupid’ while you’re struggling to calculate the family budget, or not making negative comments about your own weight or appearance. If you are considering having a cosmetic procedure, such as breast augmentation with implants, consider how you will talk to your children about it. What you tell them should, of course, be age-appropriate and honest, but you should find a way to let them know why you’re doing this without making them feel their own bodies need to be changed.
Praise Effort, Not Results
It can be very easy for children to get disheartened if they feel they are working hard, but aren’t getting praise from you. Not all children will be gifted in everything, and that’s fine. What counts is the effort that they put in. If you know that your child studied hard for a spelling test, for example, if they don’t do well in the actual test, make sure you praise them for the hard work they put in, and help them to create a plan for a different way to learn next time. This will make them feel much better than if you only praise them when they do well at something.
Let Them Try Things On Their Own
Children are curious and adventurous, and trying new challenges can make them feel very confident. If they’re trying new things, try to be encouraging instead of worrying. Unless they are in immediate danger, try not to show them that you’re anxious. This may encourage them to stop trying things out if they feel it worries you.
If you’re struggling to step aside, over them help with what they’re taking on. This could mean standing ready to catch when they’re trying to make it all the way across the monkey bars. This assistance is known as scaffolding. With your help and ‘scaffolding’, your child can feel empowered to try new things, safe in the knowledge that you are supporting them and are ready to help if they need it. From here, with this new confidence, they are likely to feel better able to tackle a challenge on their own, whether that’s a test at school or trying to develop their sporting skills.
Confidence is an essential skill, and helping them to develop it is one of the best things you can do for your children.